all good things...

my "good thing" in life is my independence, and i definitely embrace it to the fullest. i grew up in a single parent household without any brothers or sisters, so i had to find ways to entertain myself when my mom was at work and i was left home alone with the instructions to keep the house clean and refrain from burning it down. when my mom would take me to the beach for a day trip over the summer, i would happily play by myself rather than begging my mom to bring one of my friends with me. my mother was a very private person, and the idea that my business is my own business and my troubles were my own troubles permeated into every aspect of my life and remain with me today.
i feel that i am a very social person, but i do not depend on others to give me a feeling of worth. i dont need someone around to help me or give me advice all the time, because i have learned how to do that for myself. i realized, after a long and stupidly abusive relationship with a silly little boy in high school, that i am the only person that will be with me for my entire life, so i might as well learn to love and depend on myself. alot of people tell me i come off as cold or callous, but the truth is i just dont have the patience to deal with things that are outside my realm of control. i am sympathetic to people, but i dont understand when girls are completely reliant on their boyfriends and cry about it all the time, or people whine about their problems without any plans for a solution. its just how i was raised, to keep private things private and realize that you are the only person who can help YOU.